This is me too. By my early/mid-thirties I'd come to seek only casual relationships realizing that I was more consistently 'happy' single than when I was with a 'love partner'. A sapiosexual swinger aka "confirmed bachelor" by forty. In hindsight, it feels to me, now in my late fifties, that there was once a window of "crazy in love" which had opened in adolescence and closed two decades or so ago without that "thunderbolt" ever striking me (down? blind? out?), and I've never felt a loss – that I'm missing out – loving without being "crazy in love". The closest I've come to bingeing on this sweet madness, I think, are unrequited loves – I'm not ashamed to admit I've had much more than my share – who have been casual partners or friends, lovers / wives of others or near strangers. Unrequited love, the sad fierce slowburn of it (or sudden heartbreak), is about as "crazy" as I've ever gotten. Maybe because friendship has always been the most fulfilling, significant form of love for me as long as I can remember; perhaps "my heart", so to speak, has never been "open" to more (with or without "benefits"). I'm happy enough for occasional bouts "crazy in lust" and the blues I get that follows whenever she or I inevitably moves on, as they say, after a spell. Heat lightning without "thunder" shaking my nights.I've dated a lot and had four serious long term relationships. I have loved all of my partners, but never been crazy in love with any of them, none of them was the thunderbolt. — dazed
I've dated a lot and had four serious long term relationships. I have loved all of my partners, but never been crazy in love with any of them, none of them was the thunderbolt.
— dazed
This is me too. By my early/mid-thirties I'd come to seek only casual relationships realizing that I was more consistently 'happy' single than when I was with a 'love partner'. Serial (sapiosexual) monogamist aka "confirmed bachelor" by forty. — 180 Proof
"Soulmates" betray, domestically violate and divorce each other every day. — 180 Proof
"Soulmates" betray, domestically violate and divorce each other every day. — 180 Proof
Maybe I can help make the topic more philosophical.
Is love really a form of going crazy? Or, is love an altered state of consciousness?
If everyone were rational, would there be no love in society? — Yohan
https://philosophynow.org/issues/148/Iris_Murdoch_and_The_Mystery_of_LoveMaybe because friendship has always been the most fulfilling, significant form of love for me as long as I can remember; perhaps "my heart", so to speak, has never been "open" to more ... — 180 Proof
Not like a thunderbolt, but yeah. I had it, too. Deep fondness. It's crazy.My buddy calls falling for someone this way, getting struck by a thunderbolt. I've never been struck by a thunderbolt. — dazed
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