Whats stopping you from just ignoring them on your own? — DingoJones
But mainly, it just works for me. I like the function. — Coben
A lack of will-power — Pattern-chaser
This is the opportunity to work on that. — Shamshir
...being autistic. I find it difficult to ignore stuff that ... annoys me — Pattern-chaser
Ignore list? I asked about this in another thread, I couldn't find the function, either the one for threads or for members — Coben
That's why I said, this is an opportunity to work on that.I'm not wired as you are. Something that seems easy for you to do ... can be much less easy for me. A little understanding would be nice? :confused: — Pattern-chaser
If you have one leg, you can't run, no matter how much you practice. :up: — Pattern-chaser
I don't know where you're from but on my planet some sure do, and especially at smaller gatherings it can be impossible to avoid hearing them or choosing between being rude or interacting.people who you've avoided at social events don't carry on talking to you as if you were there. — Isaac
On other forums I tell them I am putting them on ignore. This is both fair, since they know not to expect responses -they can certainly criticise my posts for the gallery, of course - and pleasant to say.blocked numbers are told they've been blocked — Isaac
Well, they know. Since I tell them. And it is my judgment, generally, that there is something insincere or regularly rude in those I ignore. I wouldn't expect people to 'put up with' me, if their experience is that they think I am rude or regularly engaging in fallacies or trolling or neo-trolling. We are all selective in a variety of ways about how we are and are not in contact. I am not suggesting anyone else should do what I like to do, but there is nothing wrong with it. Since the ignore function is lacking here I do it as well as I can. But it is so much easier with one in place. And as an effect on the community as a whole I think it reduces pissing contests.I think there's something uniquely rude about ignoring someone who may well be sincerely trying to communicate with you, with perfectly good intentions, when they don't even know you don't want such efforts. — Isaac
I'm wondering why you feel like you should be in an improvement coach role with someone you don't know, and how you know better than they do about how they should deal with their uniqueness.That's why I said, this is an opportunity to work on that.
If you pity yourself, it won't get easier.
If you practice, it might. — Shamshir
There's someone who is a good role model for adult behavior with a suggestion above. Unfortunately scrolling down this thread led to his very short insulting message immediately just getting shot in my brain. The moral coaches here want us to learn how to deal. Well, the only way I can deal with seeing someone be, as usual the scared acting out bully he is, nasty to a third party, is to at least make fun of him for you. And that's me showing restraint.Any suggestions, anyone? — Pattern-chaser
There's someone who is a good role model for adult behavior with a suggestion above. — Coben
But you don't face down strong criticism, you just bark a lot. Facing down strong criticism, involves interacting with the ideas you encounter, not dismissing them, often without argument, and insulting the other person. That behavior is the sign of presenting anger rather than being honest about your fears and inadequacies in actually demonstrating the problems in the other person's position. Also you are assuming that the criticism we want to avoid is strong. It's generally not. It's posters who are here to attack, that's their joi du vivre. There are also people who are not nasty, but who just don't make sense. A gnostic agnostic...I'd like to put him on ignore. It makes scrolling down threads more efficient. I won't come back in a few weeks having forgotten he regularly doesn't make sense and work my way into one of his quagmire posts.Self-reliance and facing strong criticism are characteristic of adult behaviour. — S
If you don't want to be selective in your social life and other activities and you sit with people who bore you or criticize you weakly or on false grounds, and enjoy nobly taking on all comers like the adult you are. Go for it. For me, life is short. I'd rather be picky. I also don't read Harelequin romances. I don't watch shitty movies. I don't go back and read authors who were terrible, in case they suddenly gain skills. I edit all the time.Feeling a need to rely on an ignore feature and blocking out strong criticism is weak, childish and counterproductive. — S
I wouldn't expect people to 'put up with' me, if their experience is that they think I am rude or regularly engaging in fallacies or trolling or neo-trolling. — Coben
Any suggestions, anyone? — Pattern-chaser
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