Am I being too sensitive? There are a number of issues as I see it being raised here:
1. When posters get into arguments it's distressing,
2. Sexual jokes are unsavory to some,
3. the Shoutbox is a free for all.
1. The mods do regulate abusive conduct between parties and if you feel you're being abused, then you should speak up. My own view has been that I believe there should be as little regulation as possible of discussion because we're all adults and can handle ourselves. I have been attacked in all sorts of ways, some deserved, some not (or maybe so), and my general view has been that it shouldn't be moderated. There are parameters of acceptability and we have to maintain that, but I tend to object (in the mods section) to over-regulation more than under-regulation, but I'm just one vote and take very little personally. Differing views among mods keeps things moderate. I really am hesitant to intervene based upon an insult alone without there being some clear line being crossed (like racism or other specific rule being violated). In prior conversations with mods, I have objected that I felt the tone of the forum was growing too gentle, too protected, almost corporate, where I felt I was a customer service representative making sure no one was upset by another's comments. I didn't like it. We need an edge. But, as I said, I'm but one vote, and I am very protective against bullying of any sort.
2. I agree that outside the non-philosophical areas I shouldn't post something about having sex with a fellow poster's mother (see how gently I described that in this thread), but within the Shoutbox it's pretty much an open discussion about whatever. In all truth, much of what I have currently read in the Shoutbox are really poor attempts at humor, with a current trend with the posters acting as if they were all animals. That discussion is non-offensive sure, but it's right out of Romper Room. I obviously don't believe it should be moderated, but my point is that moderating based upon sense of humor is fraught with all sorts of problems. What I will say, though, is that I agree that no one should use humor to demean or bully.
3. The Shoutbox is the free for all area. It just is. There is a good argument that could be made that there's too much free for all in this Forum and that we should focus our efforts on real philosophical issues outside the Shoutbox. I do agree with that actually. To the extent someone wants the Shoutbox rated G and not R (and it's not X), I suppose we could rearrange the furniture and create a Shoutbox G and a Shoutbox R and then sensibilities would be protected, but I question whether that's really needed.