We see eye to eye on this issue. Consent
is a keystone in ethics/morality. Without consent any relationship would automatically become an imposition and that is an attack on personal freedom, which
is morally reprehensible.
Since, children didn't consent to being born, it implies that parents have committed a moral wrong. The consquences in the OP - the unaviodable suffering and pain that accompanies life - don't even matter. Absence of consent, in and of itself, is sufficient to qualify the act of proceeation as immoral. The suffering and pain of life just clinches the argument against bearing children.
The whole argument rests on two pillars:
1. Consent was not taken
2. Life is suffering
On the matter of 1, some posters have said that it's irrelevant because consent was
impossible and what is impossible can't be of moral significance. It's impossible to remove gravity from our lives and to include it in moral, or any other, evaluation would be unreasonable, to say the least. In short, the distinction ''can't'' vs ''didn't'' matters. Children
can't consent not
didn't consent. That, some say, relieves the parents of moral responsibility in birthing children and, simulaltaneously, surrenders a child's autonomy to the parents. Is this true?
Empirical data suggests that this
is true. Many situations exist where people
can't consent e.g. when as a child, in a coma, in absentia, when mentally challenged, etc. At these times, someone - a loved one, friend, colleague, parent - makes the decision
for the person, hopefully, keeping best interests in mind. As you can see, impossibility does matter - we're morally permitted to make decisions for others when it's a
can't rather than a
didn't consent.
2 is controversial and actually defies empirical evidence.
Most people aren't depressed, suicide is not as common as would be expected, people aren't avoiding having children, etc.
One could say that this is simply because people haven't given enough thought on the matter i.e. they fail to see the truth, the truth that life is suffering. If everyone were to just give a moment to consider the matter, everyone would see that life's just not worth it.
However, one could argue back along the same lines. Take Buddhism for example. It's central tenet is exactly what is your premise -
life is suffering. But, according to the Buddha, this suffering has an irrational origin - unmoderated attachment, expecting more than is possible, clinging to the superficial, a failure to recognize and accept nature. So, right back at you, in fact, suffering is
not because you haven't contrmplated the issue, rather, it's because you
haven't.
In addition, the experience of life is improving - we're healthier, safer, happier than we were a thousand years ago. This trend is likely to continue and a few thousand years from now, life will be even better. This seriously undermines your argument. Life is a dynamic force, it progresses, and your argument ignores this crucial fact. Your argument was good in the past, is less applicable now, and will become utterly bad in the future.